Content Warning: notes on a serially abusive ex: Spenser James Declan Cockcroft…. or Spenser Bakri Newton, Classic Pendergast… or Spenser Coughlin… or Spenser Cockcroft, or whatever this (wannabe?) “queer porn star” is up to these days.

This brief post is dedicated to my ex, the only partner I have lived with before my current partner, and his lies and destruction of reputations (including my own). I have known for well over three years that Spenser was telling people in my communities that I raped him. And for juuust over two years now that Spenser […]

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The “American problem” isn’t men, and it’s not masculinity, either.

At least, not in a vacuum. That’s a gross oversimplification of the problem. And women, girls, and anyone favoring democracy or democratic ideals must stand against the poison that gives way to the status quo. What conservative Catholicism and Christianity does to men, how they think and perceive the world, and by extension, their families, […]

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Today was a day and I got some stuff done I guess.

Today (yesterday? it’s after midnight now…) was kind of a long day. We slept in till almost one, which hardly ever happens, and then I accidentally took 2 different kinds of allergy meds to try to feel better and some of my contraband Excedrin. It helped but 12 hours later I have the foggy head […]

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